"A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy", Mukesh Singh.
“If my daughter or sister engaged in pre-marital activities and disgraced herself and allowed herself to lose face and character by doing such things, I would most certainly take this sort of sister or daughter to my farmhouse, and in front of my entire family, I would put petrol on her and set her alight.”, A.P Singh.
These are the set of lines I've come across over the past few days in the infamous documentary "India's Daughter". I saw a Hindi News report which showed that more rapes happen in U.S/U.K, so why is India being blamed, and as usual the Indian Media, Politicians, Activists, Actors entered into fray giving their opinion on what it tarnishes India's Image, a West back conspiracy theory, debates on whether it should or it shouldn't have been banned forgetting one underlying fact.
To start of Rape happens in every country, every corner of this harsh planet irrespective of caste, creed, religion,city, irrespective of the fact that you are a North Indian, South Indian, Hindu, Muslim,Christian,White, Black, Cosmopolitan, Villager so stereotyping Khaps, Jats, U.P/Biharis will not solve the problem. We Indians definitely are the best at it, passing the blame over to some one else and saying "Maine tho nai kiya, ye log hi humesha karte hai".
If we take a look at the History of any civilization and see what is the oldest form of business that is still in practice??It wouldn't be Blacksmith or Goldsmith's but rather "Flesh Trade" or "Female Exploitation" is the oldest form of Business. You name one medieval army that did not take women as "bounty", and I swear you would see shocking results. The Vedas say this is the era of Kalayuga where sins are at their peak.
So whom should we really blame for it today? Wars don't happen today and women have rights.
Ask yourself is Rape the only form of Female Exploitation??.
How many of us have witnessed Underpaid women laborers during construction or any laborious work? (Women Laborers,Maids, staff are paid less for the same job)
How many educated Indian Men, Mother-in-laws, Father-in-Laws can give up on DOWRY during marriages?(I know people who become Engineers, IT professionals, Doctors ONLY to get more dowry).
How many of us witness Eve-teasing right in front of us and ignore it because its none of our Business?.
How many of us let our Female partners do what she really wants to?.
How many working professionals put all the house-hold chore burden on their working wife?.
How many of us Judge a Woman based on her clothes?(Both Men and women are responsible)
And it is really not only men exploiting, there are a significant number of women to be blamed for female exploitation as well, Women who don't help other women in danger, women who stop men from helping others in danger, Women who stereotype other women based on Physical attributes of beauty.
I also believe segregating or monitoring Men and Women will not do the job, placing 10,000 cameras in Delhi or drone cameras would cause Moral Policing, segregating Men and Women in Buses/Trains would only give people a reason to exploit women later.
“If my daughter or sister engaged in pre-marital activities and disgraced herself and allowed herself to lose face and character by doing such things, I would most certainly take this sort of sister or daughter to my farmhouse, and in front of my entire family, I would put petrol on her and set her alight.”, A.P Singh.
These are the set of lines I've come across over the past few days in the infamous documentary "India's Daughter". I saw a Hindi News report which showed that more rapes happen in U.S/U.K, so why is India being blamed, and as usual the Indian Media, Politicians, Activists, Actors entered into fray giving their opinion on what it tarnishes India's Image, a West back conspiracy theory, debates on whether it should or it shouldn't have been banned forgetting one underlying fact.
ARE WE THAT BAD ??
To start of Rape happens in every country, every corner of this harsh planet irrespective of caste, creed, religion,city, irrespective of the fact that you are a North Indian, South Indian, Hindu, Muslim,Christian,White, Black, Cosmopolitan, Villager so stereotyping Khaps, Jats, U.P/Biharis will not solve the problem. We Indians definitely are the best at it, passing the blame over to some one else and saying "Maine tho nai kiya, ye log hi humesha karte hai".
If we take a look at the History of any civilization and see what is the oldest form of business that is still in practice??It wouldn't be Blacksmith or Goldsmith's but rather "Flesh Trade" or "Female Exploitation" is the oldest form of Business. You name one medieval army that did not take women as "bounty", and I swear you would see shocking results. The Vedas say this is the era of Kalayuga where sins are at their peak.
So whom should we really blame for it today? Wars don't happen today and women have rights.
Ask yourself is Rape the only form of Female Exploitation??.
How many of us have witnessed Underpaid women laborers during construction or any laborious work? (Women Laborers,Maids, staff are paid less for the same job)
How many educated Indian Men, Mother-in-laws, Father-in-Laws can give up on DOWRY during marriages?(I know people who become Engineers, IT professionals, Doctors ONLY to get more dowry).
How many of us witness Eve-teasing right in front of us and ignore it because its none of our Business?.
How many of us let our Female partners do what she really wants to?.
How many working professionals put all the house-hold chore burden on their working wife?.
How many of us Judge a Woman based on her clothes?(Both Men and women are responsible)
And it is really not only men exploiting, there are a significant number of women to be blamed for female exploitation as well, Women who don't help other women in danger, women who stop men from helping others in danger, Women who stereotype other women based on Physical attributes of beauty.
I also believe segregating or monitoring Men and Women will not do the job, placing 10,000 cameras in Delhi or drone cameras would cause Moral Policing, segregating Men and Women in Buses/Trains would only give people a reason to exploit women later.
So all in all its our society, our thinking that should change, rather than our black dot of shame display picture. I believe a woman is that part of your life that can make the Rambo in you become a Raj of DDLJ(A mother/sister/wife can blossom that soft spot in you). And if the Lakshmi in your house isn't happy she ain't knocking on your door.
So true...... People say 'History repeats itself' For Women be she Indian, African, Australian, American....All over the world the story is the same....
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The vedyas says the same...The rajas and maharajas did the same, Salavary have all the proof of Flesh Trade.... Sad....
True.. all we can do is learn from our history and change.. Thanks Rosy for reading my blog..
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ReplyDeleteBro, we have evolved from being those historical beings , to what we are today. Today we live in a Constitutional , democratic country where there is Law and everyone living in the country HAVE to live by this law.
ReplyDeleteBoth the genders are treated equally in our constitution and we have equal law ,power and freedom for both the genders . Then, why do some men in our country think it is ok to charge onto some girl for his sexual cravings???
It's just because of the lack of fear of the consequences. That is the only reason that such crimes take place.
Nodoubt we have good enough laws and we have a police department and the courts which is responsible for the enforcement of the laws in the country. I hold this law enforcement department responsible for every single case of brutality that is taking place in our country.
This law enforcement guys could not create enough fear in the people to abide by the laws. It is their fault that these pyschos are not scared of the consequences to follow, as we don't have any strict laws and law enforcement against rape criminals. High time things should change, laws should change, law enforcement system should change.